I don’t think any one of us can go through life without being tempted to hang on to feelings of resentment and anger towards another. When I was younger I resented my Dad for being the ogre that he was during our childhood. He didn’t nurture he demanded. He was very abusive towards my Mom and towards us kids. Did it hurt? YES! At the age of 10, my parents divorced. For quite a few years I was both hurt and very angry about the whole situation. Why did this happen to our family?
As a teenager I would often get upset and feel disappointment about the way things would turn out. People would not always live up to my expectations. NO surprise there as that would have been an impossible task. Then when I married young and started to have a family I would often feel disappointed that we were having to struggle financially when others seemed to be doing very well.
There are many reasons or excuses that we can use to hold onto anger and bitterness. The bottom line is not one of these excuses will help us deal with the poison that builds up in our hearts and minds when we do. Bitterness is poison! As long as we hold onto it and embrace it we will never move forward in our lives. We will continually see everything and everyone through the tainted glasses of bitterness. We in turn will poison those around us with our mouth and actions.
There is only ONE solution to bitterness and that is forgiveness. Nothing else works! As most of us know, seldom can we forgive in our own strength. We keep resurrecting the memories of what has been done to us. We must make a tangible effort to come before God and ask for forgiveness for carrying around this poison within us and ask Him to take it away. It is at first, an act of will. Feelings don’t have to be involved. We do it because not only does Jesus say we must but also because He knows when we do it will free us!!!!
I love the quote, “Bitterness is like drinking poison and expecting your enemy to die!” This is so true. Bitterness will keep us bound up in anger and hurt and until we release it to Jesus we will never move forward in ways God desires us to move. Releasing it will bring FREEDOM!!
Heb.12:14,15″Pursue peace with all men, and holiness, without which no one will see the Lord: looking diligently lest anyone fall short of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up cause trouble, and by this many become defiled.”
Matt.6:14,15″For if you forgive men their trespasses, your Heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.”
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